Healing from Adrenal Fatigue: Renewing Your Mind

by lydia on January 15, 2012

Many of you have read my post about my own recovery from adrenal fatigue and are finding that you may be struggling with this issue yourself. Now that this is on your radar, I am here to tell you that the beautiful thing is,  you can do a lot to recover on your very own. I did!  I never went to a Dr., I didn’t have insurance and when I did my Dr. was very hard to work with. I also had NO money to do special tests or take special glandulars or supplements.

For the most part, I healed with real food, lots of rest, self-nurturing and most of all shedding off old mindsets that were negative energy zappers.  I didn’t quite know what I was doing as far as my recovery, all I knew was that I wanted to feel better from the inside out. I wanted to be free inside my own body and mind from all that brought me down. And so I began a journey. A journey to healing my brokenness, which included my beliefs.

In his book, ‘Adrenal Fatigue’, James L. Wilson says;

Healing from adrenal fatigue requires a combination of things; first and foremost, your recovery depends on your lifestyle. How you spend your energy, how you conserve your energy, and how you create energy are all extremely important. Your recovery is also contingent on what you eat and drink, as well as on the thoughts you feed your mind and the beliefs you base your life on.’

This is such an important truth to grab a hold of. And for me, it was the first step in my recovery from adrenal fatigue. In the year 2007, I gave up trying to live my life. I had just had my fourth child, was living at my ex mother-in-law’s house in a very unstable situation, and a very unstable marriage. On top of that, my church life was very oppressive and very unsympathetic to my situation. (Long story on both fronts, no need to go there!) Suffice it to say, things were an absolute mess!  A couple of weeks after I had my 4th son, I had had it, I packed up my things and left. It was a very messy situation for quite some time, but it was a very healing time as well. I removed myself from both situations as they were only causing me more and more intense anguish and I began to heal – from the inside out.

That summer, I remember sitting on the couch really just letting myself get angry. I let every emotion pour out of me. I allowed myself to not feel responsible for what I had been through, but also not pitying myself, just allowing myself the freedom to feel whatever I needed to feel.

It was a very cleansing time for me. I can remember for the first time getting a sense of understanding that I did not have to be perfect to be loved or accepted. The culture I had been in led me to believe that my performance in life had to do a lot with whether or not I deserved to be loved or accepted. I suspect many people grow up thinking this way. The thinking that your behavior and performance in life is what makes you a good person or good enough person. But the truth is, everyone is born with a right to be loved regardless. And I truly believe that every life on earth is precious. Yet we don’t act that way. Especially in rigid religious settings.

Often we believe that who we are or who we may become is based on what we DO. I don’t believe this is helpful. It sure didn’t help me. Actually, it held me back from becoming the beautiful person I already was. Needless to say, that summer I did a lot of processing and some profound realizations came to me. Realizations that truly set my ‘inner me‘ free, with the permission to let my true colors really begin to pour out!

The whole point of me sharing that very briefly and rather vaguely, was to point out how mindsets can affect our health in a huge way. If you have a mindset or belief that is oppressing you in any way, or is putting pressure on you to perform in a way that you can’t live up to then you need to renew your mind.

Think about it like this for a second. Many of those who have come into the world of real food and transitioned out of consuming processed garbage, have indeed renewed their minds. There are so many areas of life that one can renew their mind. I personally think it’s of utmost importance to have a healthy view of yourself.

Do you believe you are not good enough? Do you believe you are not measuring up? Do you believe you will never succeed in life? Do you believe you are not pretty? Do you think that you have to perfect? Do you feel guilty all the time about the choices you make in life, wondering if they are right or wrong? These are all negative ways of thinking about yourself. And I want to give you permission to stop. Be free! The truth is, it doesn’t ever matter if you are perfect or not in your performance or physical appearance. You are already perfectly beautiful inside and out!

I spent two entire years journaling my own ‘spiritual’ journey. My journey out of an oppressive way of viewing life to a more holistic one. In those journal entries I got mad, downright pissed off. If you were to read some of them they did not sound pretty at all. But you know what, they were cleansing and healing to my soul. Most of my entries were of the beauty I was discovering. The freedom I was beginning to enjoy was my theme. My heart usually soared as the years of darkness unraveled and I came more and more into the light. I know this may all sound a bit ethereal or downright weird to some of you, but I am sharing this way because it truly was how it all felt for me. I felt so free, I honestly wanted to fly. I believed I could have done flips if I wanted! And the truth is, I was happy, truly happy for the first time ever. I believe that we are meant to be happy. I am not saying all our circumstances will be perfect or easy, but I do believe that we can be so free in our hearts that we can still be ultimately happy no matter what comes our way. You won’t ever know peace until you have peace within.

I look at health in a very holistic way. I believe that to be healthy in our bodies, we need to be healthy in our minds, and to be healthy in our minds we need to be healthy in our souls. At the very core of every human being is the ultimate need to be loved and accepted. All my life that was all my heart truly desired. It wasn’t until I was able to love and accept myself that I could really begin to heal my body as well.

With that, what beliefs or mentalities in your life are draining your energy and sucking the life out of you? Are you feeling oppressed but don’t quite know why? Are you depressed and feeling hopeless? My hope for you in reading this post is that you will not accept those things as normal in your life. I hope that you will fight to find out what really is bringing you down and keeping you from living more freely. I personally, spent some time seeing a psychotherapist once I did get insurance. It was one of the best gifts I gave myself. I am so thankful that the women in my life who love me encouraged me to go. It was very therapeutic for me on so many levels. I still go see my therapist from time to time even now. She can say just one sentence to me that would shift my thinking so profoundly, yet it was just the most simple thing. What it did was cause a shift in my thinking that helped me turn a corner that I needed to turn. I can’t recommend finding a good therapist enough. I would consider it a big part of my healing right along with the rest of the lifestyle  changes I plan to discuss in future posts.

There’s a reason why the self-help section of the bookstores is so popular. People are crying out for answers to help themselves feel good about themselves again. You deserve to be happy and healthy.

If you are a mother that is sick and tired of trying so hard in all areas of your life – I encourage you to join my newsletter; ‘Recovering From Adrenal Fatigue‘. In it, you will be able to tackle your whole body’s health, not just the actual physiology aspect but your WHOLE self. Mind, body, spirit and soul.

 

 

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{ 8 comments }

JenE January 20, 2012 at 3:06 pm

BRAVO! What a beautiful post! Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us : ). I love this quote, “All my life that was all my heart truly desired. It wasn’t until I was able to love and accept myself that I could really begin to heal my body as well.”
: )

Jennifer B. January 20, 2012 at 3:27 pm

I can completely understand the belief system problem. Although I have been lucky and not had the husband problems we did leave our church after much thought and reflection. The church had become a toxic force in our lives and once we have it up it was like the sun coming out on a new day. I am just starting my recover with adrenal issues and look forward to your posts.

J.C. February 16, 2012 at 10:16 am

Wow! Reading your post, after my own boughts with adrenal fatigue, unhealthy church and marriage, I can see myself in what you write! We did leave our oppressive church, but unfortunately, the mindset in our home (while diminishing) still remains. :( I day dream most days about “breaking free”. I have started pursuing more of my passions and everytime I’m operating in those passions, I’m free. Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest in this post.

lydia February 17, 2012 at 7:27 am

J.C. – I felt like freedom came in layers or waves for me! But it took a few years once I learned to value myself and speak up for myself! The more time that goes by that I have been out of those circumstances the freer I get too! It’s rather amazing! Here’s to deeper recovery for you! Blessings!

antonina February 16, 2012 at 1:57 pm

thanks for this post, I really identify with many of things you’ve talked about. I feel like we had a very similar journey. I also did not have health insurance and have tried to heal myself with whole foods, exercise, lots of yoga, journaling, meditation, and just sleeping :)

lydia November 9, 2014 at 9:25 am

Antonia,

Good for you for taking better care of yourself and loving on yourself! Kudos! <3

Rick Malter March 14, 2016 at 2:41 am

Lydia, What tremendous inner strength and determination you were able to draw upon to free yourself. Feeling and expressing your anger was crucial in your process. Too many people put a judgment on expressing anger and remain stuck. You intuitively did what my wife and I wrote about in our e book “How to Free the Inner Child: a Path to Joy and Empowerment.” Send me your e-mail and I’ll send you a complementary copy of the e book. http://www.malterinstitute.org/books-videos/

lydia March 14, 2016 at 9:31 pm

Thank you Dr. Malter – I appreciate it!

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